Domestic Violence Myth-Busters: 5 Misconceptions Families Need to Know

October is Domestic Violence Awareness Month, a time to stand with survivors and shed light on a serious, often misunderstood issue. At Maryvale, we believe healing begins with truth, safety, and connection.

Domestic violence myths can leave families in silence and survivors in danger. Misunderstandings about what abuse looks like—or who it affects—can prevent people from reaching out, offering help, or even recognizing that something is wrong.

Domestic violence is not always visible, and it doesn’t always fit a stereotype. It can happen to anyone, regardless of their community. That’s why education matters.

By breaking down these misconceptions, we help our community better recognize abuse, support survivors, and prevent future harm. Awareness is the first step toward action, and every step matters.

The Reality of Domestic Violence

Domestic violence is more common than many realize. It affects people of every race, gender, income level, and background:

• 12+ million people in the U.S. experience intimate partner violence each year.
  
  
• 1 in 3 women and 1 in 4 men face physical violence, sexual assault, or stalking by a partner.
  
  
• 70+ women are killed monthly by a current or former intimate partner.
  
  
• The presence of a gun increases the risk of homicide by 500%.
  
  
• 1 in 15 children live in homes where domestic violence occurs.
  
  

These aren't just statistics; they represent families, caregivers, and children seeking safety and healing.

Myth 1: “Domestic violence is only physical.”

Truth: Abuse comes in many forms.

While physical violence may be the most visible, many survivors face non-physical abuse that’s just as damaging:

• Emotional: gaslighting, threats, isolation.
  
  
• Financial: controlling money, restricting access to resources.
  
  
• Verbal: constant insults, humiliation.
  
  
• Digital: tracking, monitoring, online harassment.

Maryvale’s Community-Based Services support survivors across all types of abuse, providing safe, trauma-informed counseling and resources.

Myth 2: “It only happens in certain families.”

Truth: Domestic violence does not discriminate.

Abuse affects people regardless of race, gender identity, religion, or socioeconomic status. Myths like this:

• Prevent individuals from recognizing abuse in their own lives.
  
  
• Reinforce stigma and shame.
  
  
• Delay help-seeking or access to support.
  
  

At Maryvale, we work throughout Los Angeles County to challenge stereotypes and ensure every family feels seen, heard, and supported.

Myth 3: “If it were really bad, they’d just leave.”

Truth: Leaving is often the most dangerous time.

Survivors stay for reasons that are complex and valid, including:

• Fear of violence or retaliation.
  
  
• Financial dependence or housing instability.
  
  
• Children’s safety and custody concerns.
  
  
• Emotional attachment or manipulation.
  
  
• Lack of legal protections or support networks.
  
  

Maryvale helps survivors build safe exit plans, offering emotional support, practical tools, and referrals to trusted resources.

Myth 4: “Children aren’t affected if they don’t witness the abuse.”

Truth: Children are always impacted, whether they witness abuse or not.

Even when not direct targets, children living in homes with domestic violence may:

• Struggle with anxiety, fear, or depression.
  
  
• Act out or withdraw socially.
  
  
• Have trouble concentrating or performing in school.
  
  
• Experience long-term trauma and emotional dysregulation.
  
  

Our Mental Health Services provide trauma-informed counseling for children and caregivers, promoting resilience and healing.

Myth 5: “Talking about it makes things worse.”

Truth: Silence protects abusers, not survivors.

Many people avoid talking about domestic violence out of fear, discomfort, or stigma. But open conversations:

• Reduce shame and blame.
  
  
• Help survivors feel less alone.
  
  
• Empower bystanders to offer support.
  
  
• Encourage early intervention.
  
  

At Maryvale, we believe talking about abuse—compassionately and honestly—is a powerful first step toward healing.

A Collective Path Forward

Domestic violence isn’t just a personal issue; it’s a community issue. Everyone has a role to play in creating safe homes and supportive spaces.

Maryvale provides:

• Confidential counseling for survivors and their children.
  
  
• Family-centered, trauma-informed programs.
  
  
• Community-based services tailored to each family’s needs.

If you or someone you care about needs assistance, please don't hesitate to contact us directly. You are not alone, and you don’t have to face this alone.

Together, We Can Break the Cycle

During Domestic Violence Awareness Month and every day, Maryvale stands with survivors. By replacing myths with truth, and silence with support, we can help families reclaim safety, dignity, and hope.

Breaking the cycle of abuse starts with awareness, but it continues with action. Whether you’re a caregiver, educator, friend, or survivor yourself, your voice matters. Your choice to speak up, seek help, or support someone in need can create a ripple effect of healing in your home and community.

At Maryvale, we believe every person deserves to feel safe, seen, and supported. Our doors are always open, and our programs are here to support families in achieving lasting change. Healing is possible, and no one has to walk that journey alone.